Dating the Young

Dear Boomer gal

My ex-wife is creating a nightmare within our family because I’m dating a beautiful younger woman.  She’s constantly calling our kids and telling them to do something.  She thinks I’m too old to be dating some (her words)  “floozy that’s young enough to be my daughter.”   This young woman is very mature and we have a wonderful time together.  I’ve been divorced for three years and in my late 60’s.  The young woman I’m dating is in her mid-forties and never been married.  Her family is fine with this. We aren’t talking marriage but the kids are hounding me to end this and get real.  We live in the same town and they’re making my life miserable.  They won’t allow me to bring her to any family gatherings and now they refuse to discuss any of this.  Any advice

Dear Advice

You don’t say how long the two of you have been together, but your life is your life.  If you were married for many years it’s going to take time for your children to come around.  It’s none of the ex-wife’s business how you move forward with your life.  You will have to finesse this one, one child and their spouse at a time.  Forcing them into your way of thinking will never work. On the other hand, you do have the right to tell them you have no intention of listening to their daily barrage of negative complaints.  Reassure them you are not going to plunge into any foolish escapade without thoroughly knowing the relationship is correct for both of you.   Enjoy the friendship you and your friend have together and eventually time will work in your favor.